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Thursday, August 16, 2018

The Secret to Getting Pre-Teens to Worship (Rob Quinn)

For as long as I have been working with preteens the one question that never stops being asked is, “What is the secret to getting our preteens to worship?When I started I was no different, in fact I asked this very question to so many people and the response was usually the same, “When you find out PLEASE let me know.”  But I knew there had to be something, some secret that would help leaders to get preteens to participate in worship.

I never found out what the secret is, that’s because there isn't one. But I have learned  
a lot over the years about preteens which has changed my idea of how to get preteens to worship. I want you to know I am not a worship pastor, I don't play any instruments and I am the definition of glorious noise when I sing. But what I am is passionate about preteens and wanting them to own their personal walk and faith with Christ. I believe that teaching them how to worship is a huge step in that walk. 

Let start off by asking a question, why do preteens not like to worship? 

If you are new or been doing preteen ministry for awhile there is one thing you need to know about preteens that can really help you in ever part of preteen ministry. Preteens are beginning a phase of life that their peers are more important to them then anyone else. Up to this point parents have been the main source of influence in their lives, and that has come with unconditional love and acceptance. 

As kids get older and are entering into the preteen years friends, peers, social groups, and even you as leaders are becoming more of an influence. When it comes to worship the last thing they want do is look different or sound weird. They worry about what others think about them and don't want to be different or made fun of. This is normal for even us as adults. Have you ever looked around the main service during worship time and counted how many adults don't actually sing. Why would we think preteens are any different? 

How do we get them past this? 

I have found it beings with teaching them what worship is. How often do we actually teach on what worship is and why we worship? Preteens want to know and are capable of understanding why we worship. We need to teach them that worship is so much more than singing. 

The first time we did a series on worship was fueled by the fact we did not do any worship or singing with our preteens. Part of the reasoning was the space we were in, and the other was all I heard was preteens don't worship so why try. We decided to change that and figured what better way than to start then to teach them. After our four week series we had a 5th week where we took time to worship is different ways through worship stations. The results were astounding, we heard from parents and leaders and even the preteens them selves that this was so impactful for them. 

Right then we knew we were onto something, we need to teach them why we worship and that worship is more than singing. But things don't end there because now they know why we worship, and they have had this really cool experience, how do we keep this going? This is were your leaders come in, the small group leaders are a huge key to preteen worship. Remember when I said the people that have influence in preteens lives are changing, leaders are one of this influences. 

When it comes to worship time, the worship leader leads the music and the atmosphere and the experience. The small group leaders become the ones leading the preteens in worship. This is not a hit on worship leaders because they are a vital part in preteens worshiping. 

The small group leader sets the example for their students. Your preteens are going to look around as soon as the music starts. If all they see is the leaders in the room standing there, what do you think they are going to do?  If they see their leaders having fun with the praise songs, getting lost with reflection songs, they begin follow. 

I would love to tell you there is a secret to getting preteens to worship but their really isn’t. Every preteen ministry is different, and every year your preteen ministry will be different. We begin by teaching them and then putting leaders in their lives to model it. We make sure what we are teaching them and showing them is real and authentic. With these things we are allowing them to learn and see and feel what worship is. Giving them the start to owning their walk with Jesus and how they can worship Him.

Rob Quinn has over 10 years of experience in preteen and middle school ministry and feels these stages of life for kids are the turning point for ones walk with Christ. He is a curriculum and game writer for and is also part of the FourFiveSix team at Check out the new Facebook page to connect with other preteen ministry leaders in this community. (

Rob also speaks at conferences and retreats, if you are looking for someone to speak to kids, parents or leaders you can connect with him at or on Facebook

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