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, the Pivotal 5th-9th Grade Years. The middle ground between children’s ministry and high school ministry. The age where 85% of people make their final life-long faith decisions.

Friday, February 8, 2019

Parent Ministry Blog Highlight: “Because I Said So (Command vs. Influence)”

"The classic parent response to almost anything is “because I said so….”

Why do I have to eat my broccoli? Because I said so!

Why do I have to go to bed early? Because I said so!

Why should I stop kicking my sister? Ummm…because I SAID SO!!!

It is the go-to in the parenting repertoire of commands and explanations. We tell our kids to do something or not do something, and we expect they will obey us because we have commanded them out of our parental authority.

We can force them to do something out of expectation and obligation, but is that what is going to change our child ultimately?... 

Is that how God the Father leads and loves us as His children?

We, of course, have commands from God, like the 10 Commandments. Commands are God’s tool when His children have rejected this love and influence over and over. They are the thing He uses when His children have completely lost a relationship with Him. Like the child that is about to run out into traffic, God does give us commands.

Commands are the base level of leadership in any situation, the simple “because I said so” to do or not to do. Influence, on the other hand, is the highest level of leadership, especially in our home. Continual influence over time can change the dynamic of how we lead our children and changes them as people. There is a difference... 

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