The Middle Years Ministry

Formerly "The JH Uth Guy", THE MIDDLE YEARS MINISTRY is a Site Dedicated to Providing Resources, Ideas, and Help to Pastors, Leader, Directors, Teachers, Mentors and Anyone Else Working in
the
Pivotal and Important 5th-9th Grade Years. The "Middle Years" are not children's ministry, not high school ministry, and are more than just Middle School. It is a unique and specialized ministry.

Monday, April 17, 2017

Involving your Daughter, as a Pastor (10 Reasons Why)

In this picture there are 5 pastor's daughters.  2 daughter of my Sr. Pastor, 1 on the stage leading worship and 1 in the front row worshipping with her husband.  The second row is my daughter with her arm around, our worship pastor's daughter standing next to the daughter of one of our campus pastors.  There is actually a 6th pastor's daughter 1 more row back that you don't see, my worship pastor's other baby daughter with cute pink headphones to protect her ears but still smiling and clapping to the music her daddy is playing.

I love being part of a church where the staff children are loved and embraced.  I love the fact especially that our daughters are cherished.  It is amazing for us to watch the adult daughters of our Sr. Pastor, leading and living an example for the younger girls.

It is even more significant after coming from a church, where the staff children were to "not be seen and not be heard".  Where our daughters and women in general were not given a voice or were barely allowed upfront. It is refreshing to be in a place where our daughters are highly involved and are welcome to serve along side of their fathers.

Involving our daughters as pastors in our ministry, church, and life is important.  Not to demand it, but to welcome it, embrace it, and truly celebrate it!  Here is why it is important. 

10. They will learn they have a voice in the church and in our world. 

9. They will see our example as leaders, first hand, enabling them to make discerning choices about the men they allow to lead them in their future (husbands, pastors, bosses...) 

8. They will see examples of Godly woman, first hand, empowering them to make wise choices about the women they want to become and the kinds of female role-models they choice to follow. 

7. They learn how to be"help-mates" and Biblical partners in ministry.  They can see your wife and her role in your ministry.  

6. They will learn how to serve and experience the value of using their gifts and talents for God. 

5.  They will be given a safe place to talk and wrestle with what it means to be a "woman" and a safe place to grow into being a woman. 

4. They can become a role model and encouragement for younger girls in the church but especially for other daughters on staff. 

3.  Because being a PK, is not easy.  There is a lot of people that your daughter has to share you with sometimes.   There is extra demands, weird schedules, and life interruptions.  Involving them allows them to "own" it and appreciate it.   It is not just dad's ministry, it is "mine"... "ours". 

2.  So they will be less likely to walk away from faith, church, God and maybe even you when they get older.  There is no guarantees, but involvement is one more way to allow faith to become "sticky".  Taking it from being "dad's church"..."dad's job"..."dad's faith" to "my church"..."my ministry"..."my faith"! 

1.  They are a daughter of the King and they are your daughter too.  You get to share them! They deserve VIP, full access passes to us, church and to God.  They should have the privilege to the front row seats and the backstage pass.  


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